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Books For Kids in Foster Care and Foster Parents

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books for foster kids, and foster parents.

As foster parents, we quickly became acutely aware that it was difficult to find children’s books geared toward children in foster care. Children’s books hold a special place in our life.  Aaron’s Mom is a children’s librarian, and a variety of children’s books were always available to read in his house when he was growing up.  One book, Where the Wild Things Are, played such a significant part of Aaron’s childhood that he now has a page of the book tattooed to his arm.  At Jewell’s house, “The Chronicles of Narnia”  was an ever present theme around the house and her Mom has a replica Sword of Rhindon hanging on her wall.

Children’s books can be a powerful parenting tool.  Often, you can use a children’s book to help them learn to read, develop their critical thinking skills, teach life lessons, learn about feelings, or just relax and enjoy a story before bed. Over the years, children’s books have become more progressive. There is seemingly a book about everything, and featuring a vast variety of characters.  However, as we have been raising kiddos in our home, at times we have found it difficult to find books directly related to children in foster care, including books with children in care as the central character, or books about many of the difficult issues foster children experience.

The following is a list of books that we have found and read to some of our kiddos. We find them to very helpful. These are not typical children’s books. These books will help you talk to your kiddos about all of their big feelings and help them open up to you about trauma they have experienced.  Many of these books are directly related to foster care, but some are aimed toward helping kids understand trauma, abuse, and what is and is not appropriate.  Even if you don’t have kids in care in your home, or kids who have experienced trauma, some of the books may help your kids understand and empathize with kiddos in different circumstances.

Maybe Days: A Book for Children in Foster Care

Maybe Days

Maybe Days is the most powerful book in our arsenal. We would recommend putting this book in a welcome box for new placements in your home, and just have a copy on hand in your house as well. We like this book because it talks about all of the important people involved in a child’s life, who is experiencing foster care. It respects the bio-parents and leaves it open for interpretation on what the reason is that parents need time to work on their problems.  It helps explain, in terms kids can understand, what roles the various grown ups in their life have (parents, foster parents, CW, lawyer, judge, etc.), as well as the role of the kiddo…just being a kid and being safe and loved.

Healing Days: A Guide for Kids Who Have Experienced Trauma

Healing Days

Healing Days is the follow-up to Maybe Days and is geared towards kids who have experienced trauma. The book is well written, in easy to understand language for kids, and has engaging illustrations. The book follows four kids who have each experienced their own trauma in life and discusses different coping mechanisms that they use to overcome their trauma as they try to just be a kid again.

Kids Need to Be Safe: A Book for Children in Foster Care (Kids Are Important)

Kids Need to Be Safe

Kids Need to Be Safe is a great book for explaining to your kiddos why some kids need to have foster parents.  It uses amazing illustrations and easy to understand language to explain to kids that sometimes their parents are not able to care for them and keep them safe, and so they may need to live with relatives or foster parents.  It goes into great length to reassure children that they are not in foster care because they are “bad” and it is not “their fault”.  Most of all, it explains that kids need to be safe, and that the adults will keep the kids safe so the kids need to focus on being kids.

A Terrible Thing Happened

A Terrible Thing Happened

A Terrible Thing Happened is great for introducing therapy and how to talk about the trauma children may have experienced. The main character is a cute raccoon who is very engaging for children.  The trauma that he has witnessed/experienced is always illustrated as an indiscernible thought bubble, allowing kids to get the meaning without having to dive into details.  The clouded memory also helps kids project their own trauma and memories into the book, which can lead to some very emotional conversations.  The unclear portrayal of a memory in the book can also be very relatable to kiddos, because often they know something terrible happened, but they are not exactly sure what it was or how to explain it.  The book discussed how talking about “the terrible thing” with a therapist or a safe adult can help you with your emotions.

Do You Have a Secret? (Let’s Talk About It!)

Do You Have A Secret

When you need to give your kids a push in order for them to disclose things to you, this book, “Do You Have a Secret” can really help. This book helps kids decipher a good secret from a bad one, even if the person who told you to keep the secret was an adult.  Surprise birthday parties? Good Secret! An adult hurts you and tells you not to tell anyone? Bad Secret!  The book is evenly balanced between good and bad secrets, so you and the kids don’t get bogged down in the heaviness of a bad secret.  The book can also be very interactive, allowing your kids to decide if it is a good secret and bad secret. Sometimes, after reading the book, your kiddo might want to talk to you about a bad secret they have been keeping.

Please Tell! A child’s story about sexual abuse

Please Tell!

If this is what you and your kiddos are having to process, this book, “Please Tell” is powerful. There is no easy way to talk to your kiddo about abuse, let alone sexual abuse, but this book definitely helps to start the conversation. It is told in the first person by a 9-year old child, about a horrible time when she was four.  It is real, it is honest, and it is personable for children. The illustrations look like crayon drawings by a 9-year old. It builds on the Do you have a secret?  premise of good secrets and bad secrets, and how you need to tell safe adults your bad secrets.  It also talks about the struggles of surviving sexual abuse, the difficulties it creates, basic coping mechanisms, and that it can and should be better for them. This book is heavy, and is difficult to read because of the issues it discusses, but if you need it, it is a great tool.

The Skin You Live In

The Skin You Live In

We purchased this book because we have had many children who came from homes or rural areas where they did not experience a lot of diversity. We live in an urban community with a lot of diversity (for Portland, the whitest large city in America) and want them to know that diversity is a great thing!  What prompted us to purchase this book was the day our caseworker enrolled our kiddos in our local school.  It is an amazing school that provides incredible support to the community and the children enrolled.  When the CW brought our kiddos back to our house after enrollment, they asked “why are there so many brown kids at the school” and stated “we should call that the brown kid school”.  These kids were curious, not racist, but at the same time, they needed some context and information. This book was a basic introduction into diversity and acceptance. After a couple weeks at school, race was no longer a factor… cooties are though. Better? Maybe. Perfect? No. We are working on it.

Come To Find Out

Books about Foster Care

Come to Find Out is a beautifully illustrated children’s book centered around a little girl named Lila.  Lila is initially defined by her dancing abilities, but as the story progresses, she quickly becomes defined by her perseverance. She demonstrates that individuals are not defined by their circumstances, but by their personality, ambition and determination. The running theme throughout the book is Lila’s love of dancing, and her desire to continue dancing, no matter what hardships life throws her way.

Although the book has themes familiar to foster parents and children in foster care, the themes are not overbearing on the story, and the book can be enjoyed by kids in all types of family situations.  In fact, the references to foster care are very nonchalant, and could come across as inconsequential to the plot of the story, or as a great conversation starter to introduce the concept of foster care to children who may not have been exposed to the concept previously.

To the End of June: The Intimate Life of American Foster Care

To the End of June

To The End Of June is a must read for adults interested in being a foster parent, supporting foster children, supporting foster parents, or are just interested in having a better understanding of the foster care system. We both read this book, as well as Aaron’s mom. It gave us a inside look at all aspects of foster care, foster families, foster children, and the bio-parents. We liked this book because it was the most in-depth as well as a non-religious resource that we could find. It discusses the foster care system in various different cities and states in the U.S, giving you very stark and powerful statistics about the success and failings of the system.  Along with statistics and legal nuances, To the End of June also gives you a very personal and intimate look into the lives of those participating in the foster care system, as it tells the story of bio-parents, foster parents, foster children, and survivors of the foster care system. If you are new to foster care or know someone who is thinking about it this book makes a great gift.

These books have been a great resource for us and we wanted to write this post to share them with others who may be looking for tools or support for talking about difficult topics with their children.

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