Jewell @ Modern Foster Family, Author at modern foster family

January 3, 2020January 15, 2020

12 Sensory Tools For Your Home

When we became foster parents, we were first time parents. The world of childhood development was a bit new to us. We had read some books, played with younger siblings, nieces, and younger cousins, but had never been in the trenches with childhood development. Foster care throws you in the trenches, and can expose you to a very neuro-diverse array of children in a short amount of time. Since we started fostering, we have had 12 kiddos in care, and one bio child. With nearly every child, we have experienced a “that is new to us” moment, in learning how a kiddos brain develops. This post will hopefully share with you, some of the tools we have picked up along the way, in helping to nurture children with sensory processing needs.

We are by no means experts in this field, but we do have experience. We have had numerous kiddos in our care who have been diagnosed with “sensory processing disorder” and others who were considered to have sensory needs. These terms were new to us initially, but seem to be more common or discussed in parenting and especially foster parenting circles over the last few years. Maybe it is just similar to that phenomenon where you buy a car you like, and then all of a sudden you see the same car everywhere.

April 16, 2019April 20, 2019

How to Stay Organized While Fostering

I hate feeling overwhelmed and unorganized. Since starting this journey, one of my biggest fears and stresses is missing an appointment or obligation. Last year our went from two kids to four kids in a very short period of time. With all the appointments that a newborn needs as well as getting our newest kiddos caught up on their appointments as they came into care, missing an appointment was bound to happen. I straight up missed an appointment one week, that was not even on my radar. So I have re-evaluated my methods and improved on some old ones. Here are my tips on how we keep our heads above water, and stay organized on this journey of being a foster parent.

January 9, 2019January 26, 2019

Foster Care Visitation (Pt. 1)

I want to spend some time talking about visitations. If you are new to foster care, or even if your own family is going through a separation or divorce, you may be getting introduced and familiarized with the idea of visitations. You might also find yourself experiencing and getting familiarized with emotions and behaviors surrounding visitations. Behaviors both from the kiddos, and the adults involved. I wrote this post with the hope to encourage you during these potentially difficult times. Hopefully, through this post, and others to follow, I can provide some insight on why the children and adults in your life act the way they do, why visits are important, and how to prepare yourself and your family for visits, and be as successful as possible.

September 20, 2018January 2, 2020

How to Set Up a Bedroom for Foster Care

Once you start your journey into Foster Care, some people become very anxious. When will I get “the call” for my first placement? Who will it be? Am I prepared enough? Am I ready for this journey? How do I set up my foster care bedroom?!

Many people try to channel these anxious thoughts, along with all of the other crazy emotions that come with being an expectant parent, into doing something. They feel the need to prepare, to nest, and to get your foster care bedroom set up ahead of time. It is ok to be prepared!

Foster Care Room — How To Set Up A Bedroom For Foster Care

In this photo, you can see what our guest room/office looked like before we began fostering. This is what it looked like when we got called for our first placement, weeks ahead of when we were officially certified, with Four Hours notice of our first placement. If you are feeling antsy, we encourage you to make a list of things you need, plan ahead, have a game plan, and get ready to be flexible! We thought our first placement would be a school-age kiddo, but DHS called us with a 11-month old for our first kiddo.

Prior to our first placement, we thought we were prepared for a kiddo being placed in our home. Now, after 12 placements, and a 13th coming at the end of the month, ranging in age from 11-months to 16-years (no, we do not have 13 kids, that is how many we have cared for in our home), we feel like we are actually prepared. Many people have asked us to write a post with tips for preparing a room for a placement. Given the popularity of our Foster Care Wishlist post, and the request for a room specific post, we decided to make it happen. Here are some steps to go through so that you are more prepared than we were! Also its a great way to keep your hands busy while you wait for the call.

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June 12, 2017October 4, 2018

Foster Care Wishlist Pt. Deux

Now that we have been Fostering school aged children for over 7 months, and have been foster parents for over a year, we felt it was time to add provide an update to our list of necessary and/or helpful items for foster parents. Our first Foster Care Wishlist was one of our most popular posts to date, and we have heard from many of our readers, including perspective, new, and veteran parents and foster parents, that it has been very helpful for them. When we first wrote Foster Care Wishlist, it was based on our experience as new foster parents, and geared more towards babies and toddlers, since for the most part those were the kiddos in our home. This list is an update, and is influenced by our experience with school age children, developmentally disabled kiddos, and behaviorally challenging kiddos.

For those fostering, or expecting a placement, we highly recommend setting up an Amazon Wishlist / Baby Registry. This is an easy way to keep tabs on what you need to help care for your kiddos, and also is an opportunity for those who want to help and support you on your journey to easily help you in a meaningful way.

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April 5, 2017January 14, 2019

All About My Child

When we “graduated” from our foster parent training classes, we were given a few ugly photo copied versions of “icebreakers” to send with the kiddos on visits to their bio-family. We felt weird sending these on visits because they looked like bad photocopies of doctor forms, and seemed cold and impersonal. Initially, we purchased a cute notebook and used it to start a conversation with the bio-family, by “passing notes” in it on each visit. After multiple “notes” we realized that we wanted something that could be a keepsake. We also quickly learned after using these questionnaires that we were pronouncing our first kiddo’s name wrong! * Continue reading “All About My Child”

January 24, 2017October 4, 2018

Why I Chose Foster Care – Jewell

Helping children and families has always been something I care deeply about. When I was young I decided that if I were to become a mom I wanted to try adoption. I have always had a hard time understanding why we have so many orphans in the world when there are so many people in the world who want kids. As I have gotten older I see both sides of this issue.

I have always had a hard time understanding why we have so many orphans in the world when there are so many people in the world who want kids.

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January 11, 2017December 12, 2018

Books For Kids in Foster Care and Foster Parents

As foster parents, we quickly became acutely aware that it was difficult to find children’s books geared toward children in foster care. Children’s books hold a special place in our life. Aaron’s Mom is a children’s librarian, and a variety of children’s books were always available to read in his house when he was growing up. One book, “Where the Wild Things Are“, played such a significant part of Aaron’s childhood that he now has a page of the book tattooed to his arm. At Jewell’s house, “The Chronicles of Narnia” was an ever present theme around the house and her Mom has a replica Sword of Rhindon hanging on her wall.

Children’s books can be a powerful parenting tool. Often, you can use a children’s book to help them learn to read, develop their critical thinking skills, teach life lessons, learn about feelings, or just relax and enjoy a story before bed. Over the years, children’s books have become more progressive. There is seemingly a book about everything, and featuring a vast variety of characters. However, as we have been raising kiddos in our home, at times we have found it difficult to find books directly related to children in foster care, including books with children in care as the central character, or books about many of the difficult issues foster children experience. Continue reading “Books For Kids in Foster Care and Foster Parents”